“Anything that changes your values changes your behavior.” – George Sheehan
Our theme this month at Smart Women’s Empowerment is all about GOALS, so I feel it is important to discuss the relationship between goals and values. While goals are simply WHAT you want, values are WHY they are important. Ho hum, you may say, but if your goals are not aligned with your values, you might as well throw them out the window. Let me explain why.
I strongly believe that our values are formed during our early childhood experiences. My father died when I was just six, and as a result, I moved around to lots of different schools. My mother married a monster, and I experienced nine years of pain. So, you can understand my aversion to pain and hurt. (more…)
It is not uncommon for people to come to the end of a year, regretting some things they did that they wish they hadn’t done, while on the other hand regretting things they had hoped to do that didn’t get done.
This unhappy pattern is often followed by the equally futile practice of making outrageously impossible New Year’s resolutions, setting oneself up for failure right out of the gate. (more…)
In snow country, winter brings a season of soft, deep and wonder-filled silence. The snow absorbs sounds, creating silence that feels juicy, thick and almost “holy”. Think to the Christmas carol, Silent Night.
Yet, many find comfort with constant noise. The TV endlessly talks. Lawn mowers, traffic and more… continually add noise. We are used to constant sound-chatter. Do we escape silence to avoid feeling alone or vulnerable? Do we hide from our feelings and innermost thoughts? To a screaming mind, silence is unbearable, but silence has gifts for us to explore.
A Hindu Master, Sri Ganapathi Sachchidananda Swamiji, reflects that in silence there are no quarrels. Silence lies beyond the realm of judgment. Silence is peace. True silence occurs when the mind is still. In silence there are no questions. Creativity begins with silence. True friends communicate best in silence. (more…)
“Should you ever find yourself on your path, moving along in spite of fear, wondering if you’re ready or not to rise to the next level, chances are great that you will not be ready.”
Mike Dooley, Notes from the Universe
Are we ever really ready?
Wouldn’t it be better to wait until it’s perfect?
All of us have been there, that time in our life when we were being called to step into our greatness; to leave that job, to release that relationship, to take that new position, give a speech, write that book. (more…)
The “I Was Just Trying To Help” Syndrome
For a lot of us women, when it comes to our husbands, we have an unconscious refrain jingling in our heads that goes like this: “I know better than he does—I will help him do it right.” With this background music, we quickly develop an air of superiority. We feel qualified to instruct our husbands on how to vacuum the carpet, talk to the children, and negotiate with his colleagues. All the while we tell ourselves that we are simply helping. (more…)
I’ve got a question for you –
How are things going in your office or with your team?
I’m curious if you are noticing a difference in the tenor of conversations? The rate at which tasks are being completed? Or if some goals are getting missed? (more…)