A few years ago, I had a big aha about anger. It didn’t happen all at once. Just like the Ernest Hemingway character Mike says about going bankrupt in The Sun Also Rises, my learning about anger came on “gradually and then suddenly”.
The gradual awareness came through repeated feelings of shame, regret, and wishing I’d shown up differently. This awareness was fed through feedback from relationships, coworkers, family members, and my harshest critic – myself.
Then suddenly was when I engaged in the Equus Coaching Certification program. As part of that program, I had to work on myself as I was learning to work with clients. What came up most often was how outwardly angry I became when I could not easily master the skills for the program. Ironically, it was my anger that was blocking my path. (more…)
Do you sometimes catch yourself wondering if you are messing up the usage of me, myself or I and not using these words correctly?
Or do you sometimes hear someone else using one of those words; and somehow their usage doesn’t sound right to you, but you’re not sure who is right, you or that person?
Not to worry! The Grammar Nerd is here to rescue you from the Problem of Pronoun Puzzlement; so that you can use pronouns correctly and confidently in both your writing and speaking, and come across as the educated and authoritative person you really are. (more…)
In an informal observation, a group – comprised of one person identified as the leader and several of their staff – was served a plate of cookies. There were precisely enough cookies for everyone to have one, and then there was one extra cookie.
Those not identified as the leader politely took one cookie each and left the spare. After a bit of time, the identified leader walked up and took the extra cookie. To my surprise, this occurred in group after group. (more…)
I don’t remember if I’ve written about this incident before, and if I have, I apologize. Well, actually, I don’t, as today I was reminded again of its importance.
A few years ago, I was driving back to my home – in Los Osos, California at that time –from Monterey. It is pretty much a 3-hour straight shot down the 101. For those of you who aren’t familiar with that stretch of highway, there isn’t much along it except agricultural fields and an occasional rest stop. (more…)
Last week (in How Play Improves Your Work, Part 1), we discussed our authentic play mode as defined by Dr. Stuart Brown’s 8 essential play personalities. We also talked about 5 ways play can improve our work: Cognitive development, Creativity, Flexibility, Collaboration and Connection, and Experimentation. (more…)
When I bring up the topic of play with clients, I usually hear a groan. Why? Because for many of us, play has become something we feel we should do rather than a tool to improve passion, purpose, connection, creativity, cognition, and innovation. (more…)